God is a wonderful being that was,is and will always be and therefore no problem however BIG it is can challenge him.The farther we peer into space, the more we realize that the nature of the universe cannot be understood fully by inspecting spiral galaxies or watching distant supernovas. It lies deeper. It involves our very selves.
It’s a Secret of Life: Happiness doesn't always make me feel happy. Often, I know I’d be happier
if I do something I really don’t feel like doing. Making that phone call. Dealing with tech
support.Writing that email.
Those dreaded tasks hang over my head, though; they make me feel drained and uneasy.
I've learnt that I’m much happier, in the long run, if I try to tackle them as soon as
possible, rather than allowing myself to push them off.
The following are some of the strategies I use:
1. Do it first thing in the morning. If you’re dreading doing something, you’re going to be
able to think of more creative excuses as the day goes along. One of my Twelve
Commandments is “DO IT NOW.” No delay is the best way.
2. If you find yourself putting off a task that you try to do several times a week, do it
EVERY day. When I was planning my blog, I envisioned posting two or three times a
week. Then a blogging friend convinced me that no, I should post every day. As
counter-intuitive as it sounds, I’ve found that it’s easier to do it every day (well,
except Sundays) than fewer times each week. There’s no dithering, there’s no
juggling. I know I have to post, so I do. If you’re finding it hard to go for a walk four
times a week, try going every day.
3. Have someone keep you company. Studies show that we enjoy practically every activity
more when we’re with other people. Having a friend along can be a distraction, a
source of reassurance, or just moral support.
4. Make preparations, assemble the proper tools. Clean off your desk, get the phone
number, and find the file. I often find that when I’m dreading a task, it helps me to
feel prepared. There’s a wonderful term that chefs use: mis-en-place, French for
“everything in its place.” It describes the preparation done before starting to cook:
gathering ingredients and implements, chopping, measuring, etc. Mis-en-place is
preparation, but it’s also a state of mind; mis-en-place means you have everything at
the ready, with no need to run out to the store or begin a frantic search for a sifter.
You’re truly ready to begin to work.
5. Commit. We’ve all heard the advice to write down your goals. This really works, so
force yourself to do it. Usually this advice relates to long-term goals, but it works with
short-term goals, too. On the top of a piece of paper, write, “By the end of today, I will
have _____.” This also gives you the thrill of crossing a task off your list.
6. Remind yourself that finishing a dreaded task is tremendously energizing. Studies show
that hitting a goal releases chemicals in the brain that give you pleasure. If you’re
feeling blue, although the last thing you feel like doing is something you don’t feel
like doing, push yourself. You’ll get a big lift from it.
True confession: even as I’m writing this post, at this very minute, I’m putting off a dreaded
task! I will write no more until I do it.
Are you a student and want to make your life happier? You can read a sample here
KNOW THE FRIENDS YOU HAVE
So how do you differentiate "good and bad" friend? By the way there are no bad friends but some are misleading and add no value in life on the contrary if they do, then they will add failure in your life.
Below are some of the qualities you need to look when making friendship:
Anyone can stand by you when you are right,
But a Friend will stand by you even when you are wrong.
A simple friend identifies himself when he calls.
A real friend doesn't have to.
A simple friend opens a conversation
With a full news bulletin on his life.
A real friend says, "What's new with you?"
A simple friend thinks the problems you whine about are recent.
A real friend says,
"You've been whining about the same thing for 14 years.
Get off your duff and do something about it."
A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook
And stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.
A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over
When you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after
You've had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!
It’s a Secret of Life: Happiness doesn't always make me feel happy. Often, I know I’d be happier
if I do something I really don’t feel like doing. Making that phone call. Dealing with tech
support.Writing that email.
Those dreaded tasks hang over my head, though; they make me feel drained and uneasy.
I've learnt that I’m much happier, in the long run, if I try to tackle them as soon as
possible, rather than allowing myself to push them off.
The following are some of the strategies I use:
1. Do it first thing in the morning. If you’re dreading doing something, you’re going to be
able to think of more creative excuses as the day goes along. One of my Twelve
Commandments is “DO IT NOW.” No delay is the best way.
2. If you find yourself putting off a task that you try to do several times a week, do it
EVERY day. When I was planning my blog, I envisioned posting two or three times a
week. Then a blogging friend convinced me that no, I should post every day. As
counter-intuitive as it sounds, I’ve found that it’s easier to do it every day (well,
except Sundays) than fewer times each week. There’s no dithering, there’s no
juggling. I know I have to post, so I do. If you’re finding it hard to go for a walk four
times a week, try going every day.
3. Have someone keep you company. Studies show that we enjoy practically every activity
more when we’re with other people. Having a friend along can be a distraction, a
source of reassurance, or just moral support.
4. Make preparations, assemble the proper tools. Clean off your desk, get the phone
number, and find the file. I often find that when I’m dreading a task, it helps me to
feel prepared. There’s a wonderful term that chefs use: mis-en-place, French for
“everything in its place.” It describes the preparation done before starting to cook:
gathering ingredients and implements, chopping, measuring, etc. Mis-en-place is
preparation, but it’s also a state of mind; mis-en-place means you have everything at
the ready, with no need to run out to the store or begin a frantic search for a sifter.
You’re truly ready to begin to work.
5. Commit. We’ve all heard the advice to write down your goals. This really works, so
force yourself to do it. Usually this advice relates to long-term goals, but it works with
short-term goals, too. On the top of a piece of paper, write, “By the end of today, I will
have _____.” This also gives you the thrill of crossing a task off your list.
6. Remind yourself that finishing a dreaded task is tremendously energizing. Studies show
that hitting a goal releases chemicals in the brain that give you pleasure. If you’re
feeling blue, although the last thing you feel like doing is something you don’t feel
like doing, push yourself. You’ll get a big lift from it.
True confession: even as I’m writing this post, at this very minute, I’m putting off a dreaded
task! I will write no more until I do it.
Are you a student and want to make your life happier? You can read a sample here
KNOW THE FRIENDS YOU HAVE
So how do you differentiate "good and bad" friend? By the way there are no bad friends but some are misleading and add no value in life on the contrary if they do, then they will add failure in your life.
Below are some of the qualities you need to look when making friendship:
Anyone can stand by you when you are right,
But a Friend will stand by you even when you are wrong.
A simple friend identifies himself when he calls.
A real friend doesn't have to.
A simple friend opens a conversation
With a full news bulletin on his life.
A real friend says, "What's new with you?"
A simple friend thinks the problems you whine about are recent.
A real friend says,
"You've been whining about the same thing for 14 years.
Get off your duff and do something about it."
A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook
And stays late to help you clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.
A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over
When you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after
You've had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!
